When I met my wife, back in the day, of course I was taken by her smokin' hot beauty, but I quickly discovered that her personality and spirit was just as breathtaking. Thankfully, a few weeks later she agreed to be my date to the KHS Prom. From that night on, I knew our paths crossing was divine intervention. She stuck with me through thick and thin, and she also helped me rediscover my faith. She also stood by my side as spiritual journey ebbed and flowed, none of which did I deserve. I am blessed.
We have been a team for nearly 20 years now. We have forged through lots of experiences. Good times and bad, relying on heavy doses of Grace day in and day out. When we decided to have a family, we met challenges. But rather than a multitude of tests and fertility treatments, we both immediately knew God's plan for us was different. It was not a "Plan B" or "2nd choice," rather it was another opportunity. Neither of us has hesitated or second guessed... not for a second. But at the foundation of it all, is my wife. Stubbornly, relentlessly, passionately pursuing each of our children, with an equal amount of motherly instinct as a biological mother going through pregnancy. I can't explain it to you, so if you don't get it, you probably never will.
Similarly, if you don't know Amy very well, you aren't trying very hard, and you possibly never will. You see, Amy is an introvert. Ironically, it was one of the many things that attracted me to her instantly once I met her in 1989. I am not an introvert, so sometimes, this is the opposite of me, but at the same time, I have many introvert tendencies. We compliment each other, it's hard to explain. Some friends and family members have no clue as to how incredible Amy is. You see, she doesn't go out of her way to pursue others. She doesn't seek out social activity, just for the sake of it. For those who don't make the effort to get to know her, or pursue a friendship with her, it is your loss. Seriously. One of my favorite moments was when my wife chose to shatter all the stereotypes and got her passion and mission permanently tattooed on her body. For me it was a "you don't know me" moment for Amy and shattered any stereotypes or preconceived attitudes of people who don't know her. I not only know her, but I love it for many reasons.
OK, as I tell you all the ways that my wife amazes me, inspires me, and takes my breath away, I have to be totally honest. She also challenges me, and pushes me in many ways. You see, I was content with our family of 4. We had good jobs, a home, pets, vehicles, and our health. Life, although not without challenges, was fantastic. Then, Amy did it. She broke the news to me gently, but the words still floored me. Amy's heart for orphans and motherhood was longing for another daughter. Wait, I thought, things are just settling down, and we are finding our rhythm, why mess with it? But my wife's passion for orphans could not be denied. She was pushing me, challenging me, if you will, to step out in faith. In fact, I'm still scared to death., wondering how this will all work out... but at the same time, stepping out in faith, lockstep with her. I couldn't do it any other way.
This amazing woman, who I'm blessed to call my wife, is a gift. For those who have invested in getting to know her, you know some of what I'm sharing. For those of you who have not reached out, my condolences. Again, you are missing out.
As we embark on this life changing mission, our journey to Gia, I find myself in awe of Amy. She told me after we welcomed Gemma Lu into our family "if we do this again, you are doing all the paperwork," but I think she knew better. Because on the eve of our Journey to Gia, my wife has logged more hours of paperwork and preparation than I can recall or count. She is on a mission, and won't be denied, and I am more than inspired to join her. You see, I knew the minute our eyes met... this was my soul mate, my best friend, my gift from God. With her by my side, I can do anything.
Here we come Gia, wait until you meet your mom. It will take me the rest of our lives to tell you how incredible she is and how much she loves you.