It is not uncommon with international adoptions (and China in
particular) for the children to have unhealthy teeth. Gracie had some
really bad teeth. She needed oral surgery when she was 4. It was not
good. Since then, though, her teeth have maintained a healthy status
quo. So when Gemma came along, we were totally prepared for some bad
teeth. Imagine our surprise when, at her first dental visit in December,
she only had 1 cavity!! Surely that was too good to be true. Alas, it
WAS too good to be true. That one cavity was on a front tooth that was
abscessed and would need to come out. Sigh. Okay. We can handle this.
After all, it's MUCH less work than poor little Gracie had to get done.
So, today was the big day for Gemma to become toothless.
I think you'll agree with me that she's pretty much the cutest toothless 4-year-old around. :)
Months and months ago, when this adoption was still in its infancy, when I learned that Gladys was living in a foster home, I knew that Gotcha (and the ensuing transition) would be difficult. I knew it all the months that we went through the adoption stages. And when I learned that not only was Gladys in foster care, but that she'd been with the same family for FIVE years, I really knew it...this transition was going to be H.A.R.D. I knew it last night when I woke up 3 or 4 times. I knew it when I tried to eat breakfast and had butterflies in my stomach. I knew it when we were driving to meet Gladys and my hands were shaking. I knew it when we arrived at the meeting place and my mouth was dry. I knew it. Then, in walks this teeny, tiny, larger-than-life, little spitfire! I was instantly captivated! She has possibly the worst "bowl" haircut known to man, but oh, my! The personality bursting out of this little one was something amazing to see! She walked into th
Gracie loves bath time. She usually tells me "Daddy I want to take a long baff," while I am washing her hair and scrubbing her down. During a "long baff" she re-enacts scenes from Lion King, fills up cups of various sizes, and plays with bath toys such as two Dora dolls made for bath (which Gracie refers to as "The Twins." I like giving the baths while I can. I still remember bathing Qing when her hair was very short. It is now a bit more work to wash her hair!
Gladdie Mae went 27 days in a row wearing her Gotcha outfit. We started kidding with each other...making bets for how long she’d hold out. Then came Sunday. She didn’t change out of her pjs all day. Then Monday, the same. Then Tuesday, the same. We Thought, HOPed, PRAYED that she was turning a corner in her trust and acceptance of us. Could it finally be? Then, that tiny sliver of sunlight was shut out when the window slammed down this morning. She got dressed in her Gotcha outfit. Once again. I’m not going to lie. I was upset. I melted down. Partly from pride/jealousy. (Am I not enough for her? Why can’t she love me like she loves her foster mama?) Partly from inconvenience. (Geez, now I’m going to have to wash this outfit every night again!) But mostly from a broken heart...for my daughter. Here she is, having just had the rug pulled out from under her. Her entire world topsy-turvy. She’s trying to make sense of it all by clinging for dear life to t